They’re often not recognized as trans, which means they can be less vulnerable to obvious transphobia.Some call it “passing” or “going stealth”; others say those terms suggest secrecy or deception, preferring the term “low or no disclosure.” In practice, this means that a 6’2” woman is often more conspicuous than a 5’4” man.
The other men light up when they hear the news and start talking about rings, how much they cost, will it be princess cut or pear shaped? “That was one of my dreams, to get married, to be somebody’s husband, to be somebody’s father,” says one of the friends, Redd Barrett.
Often, they say, their words carried more weight: They seemed to gain authority and professional respect overnight.
They also saw confirmation of the sexist attitudes they had long suspected: They recalled hearing female colleagues belittled by male bosses, or female job applicants called names.
That felt totally connected and real to me that we could introduce her."I don't believe she knows them now.
I don't believe they're in New York City hanging out all the time," she explained of their absence.